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Is Your Toddler Having A Hard Time Letting Go Of Their Binky?

Here’s A Few Tips On How To Get Them To Stop Relying On Their Pacifier

I was one of those kids who relied heavily on my pacifier. I needed one in my mouth at all times (and many times it was more than one!) Just ask my mom, she has pictures. There’s something soothing about the binky. As a baby, the moment you come out of the womb you’re looking for constant connection and contact with your mother. You immediately begin nursing, and let’s face it, it’s a wonderful addiction. But you can’t eat all 24 hours in the day! That’s why the binky has become the handy-dandy alternative to soothing your little one.

But at some point when babies become toddlers, it becomes harder to get them to stop relying on their pacifiers. So, here are a few tips from experts on how to get them say “Bye Bye Binky!”

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1. Start By Keeping The Pacifier For Only Bedtime

It may be hard, but try and tell your toddler that Binkies are only for bedtime now. This will show them that night time is the only time they can have their pacifier. And ultimately the goal? Be able to fall asleep without it!

2. Read Books Every Day About Saying ‘Bye Bye Binky.’ Here Are Links To Books That May Help!

3. Pick A Day On The Calendar For The ‘Binky Fairy’ To Come

What is the ‘Binky Fairy?’ I’m so glad you asked! The ‘Binky Fairy’ is very much like the ‘Tooth Fairy!’ She will visit your child in the middle of the night and take their Binky from underneath their pillow. In return, the ‘Binky Fairy’ will leave a gift for your child. Dentistry for Children in Maryland has a great website that goes through a step by step process:

  1. Give your toddler a heads up. Let her know the Binky Fairy will be coming soon to take her paci because she’s such a “big girl” and won’t need it any longer.
  2. Create a colorful “bye-bye binky” calendar. Whether you decide to take three days or three weeks, your youngster will appreciate the time to prepare mentally and emotionally.
  3. Check out library books like “Florrie the Paci Fairy” by Anthony Crosbie and “Goodbye Binky, The Binky Fairy Story” by Sinead Condon, and read them together. *(Or the ones linked above)
  4. Start weaning your child by not offering a pacifier when she’s in stress-free situations and use only at night the few days leading up to the Binky Fairy.
  5. On the day of, collect all pacifiers together with your child and place them in a special bag or container to make it easy for the Binky Fairy to find.
  6. After your little one falls asleep, replace her bag of binkies with treats, toys or another source of comfort such as a new teddy bear or special pillow – as a gift from the Binky Fairy.
  7. During the tough times, remind your now “big kid” that the Binky Fairy took his pacis to the little babies who needed them. Expect one to five challenging nights, but soon the Binky Fairy will be a sweet memory.
  8. Celebrate your child’s “big boy” or “big girl” status with a special playdate or a small party.

Most children between the ages of two and four will give up their pacifiers on their own. Yours may never need a visit from the Binky Fairy. But if she does, make it a magical rite of passage.

4. Have Your Child Collect The Binkies, And Leave Them In An Envelope On The Front Step

If you don’t want a visit from the Binky Fairy, this may be another alternative! Once your child collects the Binkies and leaves the on the step in an envelope, leave an exciting toy in place of the envelope. Maybe even make them a cake, because all kids LOVE CAKE!