How To Save Your Marriage In Exactly 4 Minutes
With this advice, I can save your marriage and reconnect the bond between you and your spouse.
“Love” is only a four-letter word but when used as a verb it means so much. To love means to live. If we experience love from a partner, a parent, a child, a friend, or even a pet then that is a blessing. Sadly, some people go through life without experiencing true love and sometimes even when they have it, they are quick to let it slip out of their hands.
Divorce is much too common in the world, and in Massachusetts the divorce rate is 1 divorce per every 1,000 habitants. The average age of people getting divorced in America is 45.5 years old. It’s overwhelming to think about. That statistic alone has deterred young people from saying “I Do.”
What if I told you that one simple act can not only save your marriage, but it will create a deeper bond between you and your partner? Would you do it?
The “4-Minute Snuggle”
I came up with the 4-minute snuggle purely based on personal experience. A little background on me. For the past 17 years I have been a full-time musician. I was on American Idol in 2006, and since then, I have filled my calendar with performances, appearances, and any opportunity I could take to make money and expand my brand. In other words, I was a night owl. I stayed up late and slept in late. That was my life for many years, and that’s also the life of my husband, Rob, who is also a musician.
In 2018, I got the full-time job on the morning show on Country 102.5. I was so excited about the new job and new opportunity, but even still to this day, I am NOT excited about the early wakeup. My alarm goes off each morning at 3:22am. (Truthfully, it should be much earlier, but I basically brush my teeth and put on clothes and I’m out the door). So that means that my nighttime routine is insanely boring and early.
I realized quickly that my 8:00pm bedtime came quickly. My husband refuses to go to bed with me at that time, and I don’t blame him. Why would he want to go to bed at 8:00pm? I began feeling lonely going to bed so early. It felt like we were two ships passing in the night. His routine was “normal.” He would work all day from 10am-6pm, and then when he was done with work, I was winding down for the evening. We saw each other for dinner and then I was getting ready for bed (again). Something needed to change.
That’s when I came up with the “4-Minute Snuggle.”
The 4-Minute Snuggle is for the people out there who don’t want to commit to a long-snuggle fest, but are willing to connect with their partner. In the whole scheme of life, 4 minutes is NOT long. Anyone can do something for 4 minutes, and that includes connecting with your partner.
The Benefits of Snuggling
Snuggling can be a powerful tool for strengthening a marriage. Here are a few reasons why:
- Promotes intimacy: Snuggling can create a sense of closeness and intimacy between partners. Physical touch releases oxytocin, a hormone that is associated with feelings of bonding and attachment. Regular snuggling can help couples feel more connected to each other.
- Reduces stress: Snuggling has been shown to reduce stress and promote relaxation. When partners are stressed or overwhelmed, taking a few minutes to snuggle can help them feel more grounded and calm. This can help prevent conflicts and misunderstandings that can strain a marriage.
- Encourages communication: Snuggling can provide a safe space for partners to communicate with each other. When couples snuggle, they are often face to face and can easily talk to each other about their thoughts and feelings. This can help couples stay connected and avoid feelings of isolation or disconnection.
- Boosts physical and emotional health: Regular snuggling can provide physical and emotional health benefits for both partners. Physical touch has been shown to lower blood pressure, reduce anxiety and depression, and improve overall wellbeing. Emotionally, snuggling can help partners feel more loved and supported, which can improve their mental health and happiness.
How to Execute The “4-Minute Snuggle”
It’s easy and I promise you, this will help strengthen your relationship.
- If you are the one that’s going to bed first, ask your partner if he/she will come lay with you for 4 minutes.
- When they get in the bed with you say, “This won’t take long. I just want to lay with you and hold each other for 4 minutes.”
- Literally set your alarm with a 4-minute timer
- When the timer goes off, say to your partner, “You’re done! See, that’s all I needed. Would you like to stay longer or would you like to leave now?” Sometimes your partner has things to do an will want to leave. Other times he/she will stick around with you in bed. There have even been times when my husband has fallen asleep next to me while doing the “4-minute snuggle.”
- Do this every night for a week. Then try it every night for a month. Literally do this as much as you can and you’ll be amazed to see the benefits of snuggling, even if it’s for 4 minutes at a time.
If I’ve learned anything in life, it’s that anyone can do anything for 4 minutes at a time. And you never know, it might lead to something else if you know what I mean. 😉
Don’t Be Like These Country Stars….
There's a Shocking Amount Of Country Stars Who Are Divorced
Shania Twain
Shania Twain was married to her music producer and co-writer, Robert “Mutt” Lange. They Divorced after 14 years when Shania learned that Mutt was cheating on her with her best friend.Kelsea Ballerini
NASHVILLE, TENNESSEE – NOVEMBER 11: Morgan Evans and Kelsea Ballerini attend the 57th Annual ASCAP Country Music Awards on November 11, 2019 in Nashville, Tennessee.
Kelsea Ballerini and Morgan Evans were together for 5 years before calling it quits. She alleges in song and interview that she was the one who put all of the effort into the marriage. She filed for divorce in 2021.
Morgan Evans
These two lovebirds seemed so happy together and so loving when they posed on red carpets. But you never really know what’s going on in people’s lives.
Morgan Evans was married to Kelsea Ballerini for 5 years. He claims that he was blindsided by the divorce.
Carly Pearce
Carly Pearce was married to Michael Ray for only 8 months. She is now dating Riley King.
Kenny Chesney
These two stars were married just for a few months before they called it quits. No one really knows why.
Kenny Chesney was married to actress Renee Zellweger. They met at a music concert and by September, they were in January of 2005. They got married that May, and by September, they were already heading to divorce court.
Sara Evans
NASHVILLE, TENNESSEE – NOVEMBER 13: (FOR EDITORIAL USE ONLY) Sara Evans attends the 53rd annual CMA Awards at the Music City Center on November 13, 2019 in Nashville, Tennessee. (Photo by Jason Kempin/Getty Images)
Sara Evans was married to Craig Schelske from 1993-2007. In 2008 she married Harry “Jay” Barker and got divorced from him in 2021.
Miranda Lambert
This one hit fans hard and was quite the shock when it was announced. It seemed both superstars were doing so well in their lives as their careers skyrocketed. Today both superstars seem very happily married to others.
Miranda Lambert was married to Blake Shelton from 2011-2015. She is now married to Brendan McLoughlin.
Reba
Reba McEntire and Narvel Blackstock were married for 26 years. He filed for divorce in 2015.
Kacey Musgraves
The couple announced their split in July of 2020, just after three and a half years of marriage.
Blake Shelton
Blake Shelton married Kaynette Gern in 2003 and divorced three years later in 2006. He married Miranda Lambert in 2011 and they got divorced in 2015. Blake is now married to Gwen Stefani. They married each other in 2021.
LeAnn Rimes
LeAnn Rimes arrives at The Academy Of Motion Picture Arts And Sciences presentation of “The Sherman Brothers: A Hollywood Songbook” at the Samuel Goldwyn Theater on June 20, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California.
LeAnn Rimes married Dean Sheremet in 2002 and got divorced in 2010. She then married actor, Eddie Cibrian in 2011. They’ve been together ever since.
Vince Gill
Vince Gill married Janice Oliver in 1980. They divorced in 1997. He married Christian-pop singer, Amy Grant in 2000 and they’ve been together ever since.
Garth Brooks
Garth Brooks married Sandy Mahl in 1986 and got divorced in 2001. He then married fellow country singer, Trisha Yearwood in 2005 and has been married to her ever since then.
Trisha Yearwood
Yearwood was married to Christopher Latham from 1987 to 1991. She then married Robert Reynolds in 1994 and got divorced in 1999. And finally she met Garth Brooks and married him in 2005.
Zac Brown
Zac Brown married Shelly. They were married for 12 years. They got married in 2006 and announced their divorce in 2018.
Randy Houser
Randy Houser and his ex-wife, Jessa Lee Yantz, split after just 3 years of being married. He even filed a restraining order against her. They got married in 2011 and divorced in 2014.
Trace Adkins
Trace Adkins was accused of cheating on his ex-wife, Rhonda. They were married for 17 years and divorced in 2015.
Jason Aldean
Jason Aldean married Jessica Ann Ussery in 2001 and divorced in 2013. They share two children together. He married Brittany Kerr (now Brittany Aldean) in 2015 and they are still married. They share two children together.Rodney Atkins
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Rodney married Tammy Jo McDonald in 1998 and they got divorced in 2012. He then married Rose Falcon in 2013 and they’ve been together ever since.
Faith Hill
Faith Hill was married to Daniel Hill from 1998 to 1994. That’s where Faith gets her last name from. She’s been married to Tim McGraw since 1996.
Wynonna Judd
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Wynonna Judd’s first married businessman Arch Kelly III in 1996. They had two children together. The couple divorced in 1998. Then she married Daniel Roach in 2003 and divorced in 2007 after Daniel was convicted of attempted aggravated sexual battery against a minor. She Married Scott “Cactus” Moser in 2012 and they are still together.
Randy Travis
NASHVILLE, TN – FEBRUARY 08: Randy Travis speaks at a press conference during 1 Night. 1 Place. 1 Time: A Heroes & Friends Tribute to Randy Travis at Bridgestone Arena on February 8, 2017 in Nashville, Tennessee. (Photo by Rick Diamond/Getty Images for Outback Concerts)
Travis and Elizabeth Hatcher divorced on October 29, 2010, after a 19-year marriage.
Kelly Clarkson
Kelly Clarkson filed for divorce from music manager, Brandon Blackstock in June of 2020, after 7 years married.Jana Kramer
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – MARCH 14: (EDITORIAL USE ONLY. NO COMMERCIAL USE) (L-R) Jana Kramer and Mike Caussin attend the 2019 iHeartRadio Music Awards which broadcasted live on FOX at the Microsoft Theater on March 14, 2019 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Rich Fury/Getty Images for iHeartMedia)
Jana Kramer was married to Michael Gambino from 2004 and divorced the same year. They She married Johnathon Schaech and was married in 2010 and divorced in 2011. She was then married to Mike Caussin from 2015 and divorced in 2021.
Michael Ray
Michael Ray was married to Carly Pearce for 8 months.
