So What If I Stole A Christmas Gift From A Widow?!
On today’s Country Mornings with Jonathan and Ayla, we delved into a family drama that unfolded during a game of White Elephant. Our caller, Claire, shared her story, which sparked a lot of debates. Here’s what she had to say:
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“In our family, we have a tradition of playing white elephant during Christmas. This year, things took a turn when my recently widowed cousin picked a spa gift card and got emotional about how much she needed it. Following the game’s rules, I swapped my mundane bag of almonds for her spa card. My family was not pleased, to say the least. They called it insensitive, considering my cousin’s recent loss.
I’m in a dilemma. While I empathize with my cousin and regret upsetting her, the white elephant game is inherently unpredictable and playful. I was playing by the rules. It makes me wonder if sticking to the rules was insensitive in this context? Should personal circumstances change how we play a game?
This situation has me questioning the fine line between compassion and tradition. Was my family’s criticism fair, or should empathy have played a bigger role in my decision-making process? What’s your take on this? Were my actions justified, or should I have let empathy lead?”
-Claire
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What are your thoughts on Claire’s situation? Initially, I leaned towards seeing Claire as insensitive for disregarding her cousin’s feelings during Christmas. But then, I reconsidered. She was simply participating in the game. If the family felt strongly about the widow receiving the spa card, perhaps they should have gifted it to her directly rather than leaving it to chance in the game.
Navigating grief during the festive season is complex. Everyone’s immersed in holiday cheer, but does that exempt someone from the usual expectations and rules? Remember, as William Shakespeare said, “Hate the game, not the player.”
While Christmas is over that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be thinking about the next gift giving holiday!
The Ultimate Guide to the WORST Valentine's Day Gifts
Oversized Teddy Bears
Its adorable. But when it’s seven feet tall and takes up the majority of your bed, it’s not so cute. Leave the stuffed animals in your kids room this year and find a better gift!
A Candle
Leave the prayer candles at Grandma’s and instead, have a candle lit dinner that you cook!
Flowers (and nothing else)
Just flowers? No. Flowers and a necklace? Deal.
A Night At The Movies
A romantic night out with no talking, in the dark, with strangers. Sounds lovely. Not.
Household Appliances
I don’t have to explain why this is a bad idea, do I? I really hope I don’t!
A Bottle Of Wine
If you’re giving a bottle of wine, it better be one of the best bottles in the history of wine.
A Generic Gift Card
This screams “I don’t know enough about you” or “I don’t care to know enough about you to give you something to show my love that you will appreciate”A Cliche Gift Basket
A heart full of chocolates has been overdone since the beginning of time (or when Valentine’s Day was created). This can be a fine thing to include, but it can’t be the only thing!
Sour Patch Kids
Seriously, someone once got me a box of Sour Patch Kids… Yes, I loved the candy at the time, but romantic? I think NOT
Coupons
Two hours of quiet time
I have been not only the victim of this, but I have also given them too (so I’m guilty too). But when you give coupons, I don’t think you’ve put enough thought into getting your loved one a gift.
Nothing
If you forget that there’s a national holiday called “Valentine’s Day” then you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Stop using the excuse that “Every day is Valentine’s Day babe” line.Hygiene Products
Hey, you smell bad, here’s some soap. Uhhh, no. Pass.
