My Mother Gave Me $15,000 For My Wedding, But We Decided To Elope And Spend The Money On Something Better
My Mother Gave Me $15,000 For My Wedding, But We Decided To Elope And Spend The Money On Something Better
Abbie’s mother is so excited for her engagement that she gave Abbie $15,000 for her wedding. but Abbie decided the money could be better used for something else, so she is going to elope. Now Abbie’s mother wants the money back. Should she have to return the movie if she does elope?
Check out Abbie’s Story. Do You Think She Should Elope? Should She Keep The Money?
Jonathan: It’s panic button, which we every single day at this time. Right now we’ve got Abbie on the phone. Hey, Abbie.
Abbie: Hi, guys. How are you.
Ayla: You sound stressed right now.
Jonathan: She’s got a stressful issue. So, Abby, what’s going on? You are getting married. Obviously that’s stressful, but your mom is the one causing all the stress in your life.
Abbie: Yes and no. I mean, yes I am stressed. So, if I start rambling, cut me off. I have been engaged now for about six months, and my parents, mainly my mom, was very generous and wanted to give us $15,000 towards the wedding.
Jonathan: Okay, so did she give it to you or did she just want to give it to you?
Abbie: She wanted to. And then she did give it to me.
Jonathan: Okay. Okay.
Ayla: So she wanted to do it.
Jonathan: She gave you $15,000 for the wedding, which is very nice.
Abbie: Yes, she wrote a check. We have this $15,000 in a savings account. And we started planning the wedding and realized it’s so dumb because the wedding is going to cost way more than $15,000.
Ayla: Oh, yeah, I know.
Jonathan: Really.
Ayla: It’ll help, though. It’ll help make the dent in your wedding. Sure. That’s still a big amount. But you’re right. Depending on how many people show up and the food, that’s more than 15,000 dollars. A band alone charges 15 K, which is insane.
Jonathan: I’ll show up for $30.
Ayla: I’ll show up for 14 K. Okay, I will perform as well.
Jonathan: I do it with a Blue Tooth Speaker. All right, so it’s too expensive. So what’s going on?
Abbie: Well, so ultimately, my fiancé and I decided instead we’re just going to book an appointment at a courthouse, and we’re not going to have a reception. And we’re going to do that because, again, this is way more about my future, my marriage than a party one day.
Ayla: OK
Abbie: And I told this to my mom and she is so livid. She is so furious. She wants the money back, but we want to keep the money and put it towards something that will actually benefit us. Like towards a down payment for a house one day, or even we need a new vehicle really badly. There are things that are going to help us way more than having one big party one day.
Ayla: All right. I bet Jonathan is thinking, I wish all brides would have that mentality, because that sounds like what you’re wife would do.
Jonathan: Well, I don’t wish it. My wife did have that mentality.
Ayla: I know, I know, and I feel like there’s a lot of people, especially with inflation, who might actually agree with Abbie and you guys and say that sounds super smart. But also your mom did give you money for a specific reason. Didn’t she?
Abbie: Yes
Ayla: So I feel like that also has to be respected in some way. And she said it was for a wedding. So maybe just have a party or a reception. I don’t know. I’m just thinking there’s other ways around it to make everyone happy.
Jonathan: Yeah, she could do that. But the mom wants her to spend all the money on the wedding. That’s why she gave it to her. Which I think that’s insane. I don’t know. I don’t believe that when you give people money that you then have a right to tell them how they’re going to spend it.
Ayla: I think that that’s exactly why people give you money.
Jonathan: To control you.
Ayla: There’s always an expectation on what this is supposed to be for.
Jonathan: Yeah, I don’t give people money to control them.
Ayla: Okay. So I’m going to give you money for college and then you realize that you spent it on a car.
Jonathan: Okay. Well, that was your mistake for giving me a bunch of money.
Ayla: Yeah, I disagree.
Jonathan: That’s the problem Abby. So you’re going to elope at the courthouse, you said.
Abbie: Yeah. I mean, an upcoming date.
Jonathan: It could be romantic. Why not?
Ayla: My cousin did. Yeah. I’m not saying anything.
Jonathan: Your mom can come down and be a witness, for God’s sake. I don’t I don’t really understand why the problem is there.
Ayla: Mom wants the money back.
Jonathan: But her mom gave her $15,000 for her for a nice wedding, and now she’s not going to have that. She’s just going to elope down at the courthouse. I don’t see any problem with this. Apparently, the mom does and wants the money back. Does she have a right to even ask for that? Abby thank you so much.
Abbie: Awesome. Thank you guys.
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