Skye's 17 year old brother-in-law came to stay with her family for a bit and she is concerned because her spare bedroom is next door to her 15 year old daughter's room. Skye instructed her brother-in-law to sleep on their couch instead, but when she woke up the next morning he was in the spare bedroom. Her husband doesn't think this is a big deal but she is worried something might happen between them

Jonathan: Danielle today for panic button we have Skye. Who's got a beautiful name. But also a weird problem. Skye, what's going on?

Danielle: Hi.

Skye: Hi there. Yeah. I have a brother-in-law. He's 17 years old. And my brother-in-law was coming to stay with us for a little while and my husband and I have a 15 year old daughter.

Jonathan: OK.

Skye: You know, they're more like friends. They're more like cousins. My 15 year old and the 17 year old.

Danielle: Yeah, right.

Jonathan: Yeah, then. OK, right. Cause they're only two years apart, right?

Danielle: Yeah. Sure.

Skye: But when he was going to stay with us, I was putting a bit of a fight up with my husband, telling him I don't want him to sleep in the spare room because it's right next door to our 15 year old. And I just don't feel comfortable putting a 17 year old boy next to our 15 year old daughter.

Jonathan: But I mean. What did your husband say? I'm assuming he was like well they’re related

Skye: That's what he was saying. You've got nothing to worry about. You're fine. This is the spare room. And I understand where he's coming from. But I also don't want to open that door. You know, the risks here are just not worth it.

Jonathan: Has he ever given you a reason? Have they ever given you a reason to be suspicious?

Skye: He’s a 17 year old boy. Not anything explicit. They're just fun. That's all.

Jonathan: They're comfortable with each other though. It's not like they don't know each other.

Danielle: Yeah. You just don't think it's appropriate.

Jonathan: Yeah. OK. So he's been sleeping on the couch then downstairs.

Skye: I put him on the couch downstairs. And then in the morning, I found out that he had actually moved up into the spare room at night, and I was really, really mad. He said the couch was super uncomfortable, but I didn't put him in the spare room and I don't know if my husband actually was involved in that or if it was just something he decided on his own.

Jonathan: OK, so you told him to stay on the couch. You wake up, he's in the spare bedroom. Cause your couch is uncomfortable. I mean, did he talk to your daughter? Were they hanging out that night or anything?

Skye: From what I could tell, there was no interaction.

Jonathan: OK. But you're still upset that he didn't listen to the directions and the rules and everything like that. Well, you know, 17 year olds, they're known for being rule followers, so that's alright. So I don't know much to say about this, Danielle. What do you think?

Danielle:  Yeah. I mean, I think it kind of comes down to the under my roof argument.  I understand  that to the kid, it may seem innocuous. But you know, mom is clearly concerned. Skye has some concerns.

Jonathan: I would be more upset that you told him to sleep downstairs than he broke the rules. You're staying in our house and we're letting you stay here. You should do us the favor of listening to the rules.

Danielle:  Suck it up and be on the couch one night and just say hey this is really uncomfortable. Can I please stay in the spare room?

Jonathan: I mean it seems like you're being a little paranoid about this. I don't know that he would necessarily take advantage of the situation. But I don't know. Here's Skye’s problem. Her husband has a 17 year old brother and they also have a 15 year old daughter. And the 15 year old and 17 year old get along but he's staying at their house.

Danielle:  Right

Jonathan: Skye wants him sleeping on the couch downstairs and not in the spare bedroom upstairs next to her daughter. The bedrooms are next to each other. Is she wrong to be paranoid about this? Is she right to be paranoid about this? Especially considering the fact that he ended up in the spare bedroom? Skye thank you so much.

Skye: Thank you.

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Bree lives with her dad and step mom. She takes Ambien to sleep, and sleeps in a T-shirt and underwear every night. One morning she woke up to find someone had put pants on her. She confronted her parents and they both denied it. But someone put pants on her. Should she be weirded out by this? Should she confront her parents about it?

Jonathan: Today on the panic button. Danielle, we have. Bree. Hey, Bree.

Bree: Hey, how are you?

Jonathan: Hi doing great. So, Bree, I think you have something in common definitely with me and I I believe you too, Danielle, is you have a little bit of a problem sleeping.

Bree: Yeah, I I cannot sleep. I I just have struggled for years, honestly. So I  basically take Ambien.

Danielle: OK.

Bree: To fall asleep.

Jonathan: Yeah, I've never. Have you done Ambien there Danielle?

Danielle: I have and if you stay up while you're on Ambien, it's a really interesting literal trip, yeah.

Jonathan: It's a trip. I've heard that. I really need to get some Ambien. So you take Ambien to sleep and what happened?

Bree: Well, it usually works pretty well for me. I found a good solution in it, but generally I'll sleep in a T-shirt, that's it.

Jonathan: OK.

Bree: And I live at home with my step mom and my dad.

Jonathan: Yes.

Bree: And the other night, something weird happened. That's why I'm calling in. I fell asleep with my door open. But when I woke up, I was wearing pants and I always sleep in a T-shirt. I always sleep in just a T-shirt.

Danielle: OK.

Jonathan: Were you wearing pajama pants, though, right? I'm just saying, like you weren't…

Danielle: Like jeans?

Bree: Yeah, they were pajama pants.

Jonathan: OK. So somebody slipped pajama pants on you while you were asleep.

Bree: I guess.

Jonathan: And it's only your step mom and your dad.

Bree: Yes, exactly.

Jonathan: OK.

Bree: So I asked my dad. Because I take Ambien almost every night to go to sleep, and I have a whole nighttime routine. I do my face stuff, shower, all that stuff. I always put on my big T-shirt. I've got four of them that I rotate.

Jonathan: Well yeah

Bree: And yeah, I woke up wearing these pajama pants that I don't even wear anymore.

Danielle:  Is your dad a prude?

Bree: I went up to my dad, and I was like, did you put pants on me? This is so strange. And he was like, no, absolutely not. Adamantly no. And then I went to my step mom, and she was a little weird about the answer.

Jonathan: Good.

Bree: You know lots of UMS in there. So I feel like she's the one that did it and I don't know, this is just weird. I feel like this is a violation of my privacy. Should I be freaking out?

Jonathan: I mean it, it is definitely weird.

Danielle: Couldn't you just shut the door, right?

Jonathan: I mean, did you maybe? You had the door open?

Bree: Yeah, I did.

Jonathan: So maybe they were just like her butts hanging out like this looks bad.

Danielle:  Ohh, shut the door. Don't put pants on me.

Jonathan: Oh, you mean should they should shut the door? I thought you meant Bree should shut the door. They should shut the door.

Danielle:  Wait. Dad or her step mom could have just closed the door. Very simply. I mean, putting pants on her seems like a lot of work.

Jonathan: Is there any chance it was them being sweet or something like ohh she looks cold. I don't know.

Bree: I don't know what to think.

Jonathan: And there's no chance you did this while you were sleeping. Like you didn't wake up and do it. Because sometimes people do stuff.

Danielle: Sleepwalking?

Jonathan: Sleepwalking. You never had a problem with that?

Bree: No, I've never. I mean, as far as I know. I've never sleepwalked. Sleptwalked? I don't know how to say that.

Jonathan: Somnambulist I think. Ok, so Bree’s problem is, she took an Ambien to fall asleep the other night. And she sleeps without pants on, not to get too personal. But is it just no pants or  you don't have panties on either, and no underwear? I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

Danielle: Don't say panties ever again, John.

Jonathan:

Bree: I usually sleep in underwear and A T-shirt and I woke up with  pants. Yeah.

Jonathan: So you were wearing underwear, OK. So she sleeps in underwear under a T-shirt. And when she woke up she had pants on. She confronted her step mom and dad about it, and they both denied it, though she says her step mom was a little weird about it. Should she be worried about this?

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