My Parents Won’t Give Me My $200K College Fund Just Because I’m Not Going To College

Everett's parents have been saving a college fund for him and raised $200K. But Everett took a job painting boats and has decided he doesn't want to go to college now. But he feels like they saved that money for him and they should still give it to him

Jonathan: Today for panic button we have Everett. Hey, Everett.

Danielle: Hello.

Jonathan: Hi, old timey name with the fancy new problem. Everett. You decided unlike everybody in Boston, you decided you weren't gonna go to college. Why is that a problem? What's going on?

Everett: Well, here's the thing. I'd always intended to go to college, but before college came for me, I had a really fortunate opportunity fall into my lap. I have this really great job painting boats.

Jonathan: OK. Yeah, they can pay really well I've heard.

Danielle: Yeah.

Everett: Yeah, I mean it's getting me by for sure and I'm really enjoying it, but here's the catch. My whole life growing up, my parents kept saying you're going to go to college, you're going to college. And I said sounds great. And they said and guess what? We're going to help you. So every paycheck they got, they put aside a little bit of money for me in a college fund. And at the end of my 18 years of growing, that accumulated to about 200K.

Jonathan: Wow.

Everett: So here's the thing. I don't think I need to and or want to go to college. I'm kind of enjoying this job.

Jonathan: I mean that college fund might cover a semester.

Everett: But I'm like, wow, that could really help with the down payment on a house that could really affect my adult life.

Jonathan: Sure. Yeah. Yeah, that would be great to have. Yeah.

Everett: So I think I want to use that college fund for myself.

Jonathan: OK.

Everett: Because my parents just have it. I mean, they saved it for me. It's my money.

Jonathan: A down payment on a house. Or you could open up your own boat painting shop or whatever. So many things. So are they giving you the money? Obviously not. Cause you're calling.

Danielle: So many ads.

Everett: So many opportunities. Right. Yeah. They said no. That money was for college. Well, we're not doing college, so now what? The money’s not for you.

Jonathan: Yeah.

Everett: But I mean, it was for me. So now they're saying it's not for me and I don't know. It's weird because it's like their money, but it isn't their money. It's mine.

Danielle: That sucks.

Everett: But they made it.

Jonathan: I can kind of see where they're coming from, though. The reason they put the money aside was in preparation for you to go to college and get a degree and something that might be not necessarily more profitable, but more fulfilling, maybe. And I'm not saying a  manual labor job isn't. And obviously you seem to like it, but it was something that they had plans for you and you didn't fulfill those plans and they let you know that the money was for college, right?

Everett: Right.

Jonathan: And I'm assuming they didn't like you not going to college.

Everett: Yeah, I mean that was always the plan.

Jonathan: There was a battle.

Everett: All right, this is how I looked at it. I was going to go to college so I could try to get a job, right? That's the whole point. But I got the job, so why not just start at the end?

Danielle: Alright, well yeah.

Jonathan: Who do you side with on this? Everett's problem is that his parents set aside $200,000 for him to go to college but he didn't go to college. He paints boats for a living and makes good money at it. And now would like that money. Does he deserve it?

Everett: I think I deserve it. Yes.

Danielle: Yeah.

Jonathan: Does he deserve it? Everett thank you so much.

Danielle: Thanks.

Everett: Thank you.

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