Curtis’s girlfriend had been going for cancer treatments for a year when he found out that she didn’t actually have cancer. She cheated on him and she faked having cancer to cover having an affair with an oncologist. But Curtis doesn’t want to break up with her. He still believes she’s the perfect girl for him and forgave her. But his family is refusing to let him take her back. Do you think Curtis should forgive his girlfriend for lying about having cancer and cheating on him with her oncologist? Or should he cut bait and move on?
Ayla Brown: And good morning, Curtis. I feel like we have a lot to unpack here. What’s going on with your girlfriend? Maybe not any more. Maybe a fiancée, I’m just very confused. Fill me in. Okay.
Curtis: Well, she’s my girlfriend. I’ve been dating her for a while now, and she had cancer. And I’ve been supporting her, taking care of her during the whole thing. It was a lot. And she was always really into her oncologist, you know what I mean? It was like it they were close.
Ayla Brown: Like the oncologist has been wonderful during the cancer stuff.
Ayla Brown: Talking through it. Being there for me. Just one of the best in the world. Okay.
Curtis: Exactly. And then it turns out that she never had cancer and she was just doing it to have a relationship with this oncologist.
Ayla Brown: Doing what? To have a relationship with her oncologist? Lying? Your girlfriend did this to you, cheated on you with a cancer doctor, an oncologist, but never had cancer.
Curtis: Right. Right.
Ayla Brown: Okay. How did you find out? How did you find out about this?
Curtis: You know, it’s like the usual way. You find some texts that don’t… There comes a point where you’re like, I don’t know that my girlfriend should be texting their oncologist at three in the morning.
Ayla Brown: You know, looking through her phone and you’re like its 3 a.m. Dr. Jones is giving not cancer advice. They’re talking about their upcoming trip this weekend.
Curtis: I’m not like a jealous person. I feel like she could she can look through my phone. I don’t have anything to hide, you know what I mean? But it was just kind of weird
Ayla Brown: And you’re completely fine that this woman has been lying. I mean, I don’t know if anyone listening right now just feels like Curtis that you just totally fine with this.
Curtis: Well, I wouldn’t say I’m fine. You know, it’s not something I didn’t request. You know what I mean?
Ayla Brown: Don’t laugh. This is serious.
Curtis: I’m upset, But there’s a bigger issue going on right now that’s almost like the second thing because we’re in the process of buying a house and life is complicated. And so there’s all this going on. And my family is like drawing a line in the sand where they’re like, you have to break up this person. They’re threatening to disown me. Yeah, literally, literally disown.
Ayla Brown: I understand you said we’re in the process of buying a house? But, Curtis can you stop the process or do you love the woman?
Curtis: I mean, technically both. People make mistakes, you know?
Ayla Brown: Yeah. And she fessed up to it only because you found text messages between her and the doctor when you sat her down and said, Have you been cheating on me? Like, that’s how this all came about. And she was like, Yes, and came clean. And now you’re like, the only reason I’m calling you is because I don’t know what to do, because my family might disown me. I’m just trying to put all the pieces together here, right?
Curtis: Yeah. Yeah, I know. It doesn’t sound super great on paper.