Kenzie’s friend and roommate broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago and has been spiraling. She’s been clubbing and bringing random guys home and fooling around in their common area. Should she say something or let her go through her crazy phase?
Ayla Brown: Good morning, Kenzie. I hear something’s going on with your roommate, and maybe there’s a way we can help. What’s going on?
Kenzie: Hey, good morning. Yes, absolutely I am. I’m kind of troubled with this situation that I’ve got going on. So my roommate, Kim, and her boyfriend of, like, five years. Dan, They broke up. She’s gone rogue. I don’t even know who she is anymore. And it’s like it’s 360 on our relationship as a friendship. In the three months since they broke up she was crying, like a normal breakup. But then afterwards, she started going out to clubs. She’s been bringing home guys. And I thought it was okay. After a few months, like, awesome, Good for you. But then one night there’s two guys and then I’m just like, trying to go to the bathroom and it’s just kind of awkward.
Ayla Brown: Two guys at once? No, stop
Kenzie: Yes. No, absolutely. I tried to go to the bathroom at like 1 a.m. and there’s two guys and I obviously didn’t want to see it, but I went back in my room and I texted her in the morning and I was like, okay, so what was that about? And then I’m just not really getting responses from her. She’s kind of ignoring me. We live together, but I barely see her. And I noticed that on my office chair that there’s just like some weird looking stuff on there. And I don’t want to throw accusations, but I mean, the living room is just smelling weird. I was like, okay, so why aren’t you doing these things in your bedroom? I confronted her about what she was doing and she said it there were too many memories in her bedroom because Dan would sleep over there all of the time.
Ayla Brown: Right. I have a question for you, Kenzie. You said that she’s been going out to clubs and now she’s like bringing home different guys. And the other night there were two guys, and you’re like, Whoa! Now, as her friend, is this someone that you’ve known for a while or just some random roommate that like you started living with a couple of years ago to save on rent?
Kenzie: No, this is my absolute best friend. I’ve known her since I was 11.
Ayla Brown: So are you going with her to the clubs?
Kenzie: No, No, I’m not.
Ayla Brown: You’re her ride or die. You should be partying with her so she doesn’t make these bad decisions. I mean.
Kenzie: Maybe Yeah, you’re right. That is why I want to know if I should be supportive or should I be harsh, I mean think about it. There’s just too many guys night after night, and I don’t know if I should indulge it and go out with her because it seems like she’s really just going through like a lot of pain. I mean, she’s drinking right from the bottle, you know, And there’s different guys all of the time. So I don’t know if I should really be all let’s go out. I mean, maybe I should be like a parental monitor on that. But at the same time, I just wish she would get everything together and do things like yoga right now because she’s still going to be hurting.
Ayla Brown: Yeah. And she sounds like she’s doing inappropriate things with people in your common areas, which is also disgusting. You need to hire a cleaner.