How To Save Your Marriage In Exactly 4 Minutes

With this advice, I can save your marriage and reconnect the bond between you and your spouse.

"Love" is only a four-letter word but when used as a verb it means so much. To love means to live. If we experience love from a partner, a parent, a child, a friend, or even a pet then that is a blessing. Sadly, some people go through life without experiencing true love and sometimes even when they have it, they are quick to let it slip out of their hands.

Divorce is much too common in the world, and in Massachusetts the divorce rate is 1 divorce per every 1,000 habitants. The average age of people getting divorced in America is 45.5 years old. It's overwhelming to think about. That statistic alone has deterred young people from saying "I Do."

What if I told you that one simple act can not only save your marriage, but it will create a deeper bond between you and your partner? Would you do it?

I came up with the 4-minute snuggle purely based on personal experience. A little background on me. For the past 17 years I have been a full-time musician. I was on American Idol in 2006, and since then, I have filled my calendar with performances, appearances, and any opportunity I could take to make money and expand my brand. In other words, I was a night owl. I stayed up late and slept in late. That was my life for many years, and that's also the life of my husband, Rob, who is also a musician.

In 2018, I got the full-time job on the morning show on Country 102.5. I was so excited about the new job and new opportunity, but even still to this day, I am NOT excited about the early wakeup. My alarm goes off each morning at 3:22am. (Truthfully, it should be much earlier, but I basically brush my teeth and put on clothes and I'm out the door). So that means that my nighttime routine is insanely boring and early.

I realized quickly that my 8:00pm bedtime came quickly. My husband refuses to go to bed with me at that time, and I don't blame him. Why would he want to go to bed at 8:00pm? I began feeling lonely going to bed so early. It felt like we were two ships passing in the night. His routine was "normal." He would work all day from 10am-6pm, and then when he was done with work, I was winding down for the evening. We saw each other for dinner and then I was getting ready for bed (again). Something needed to change.

That's when I came up with the "4-Minute Snuggle."

Snuggling can be a powerful tool for strengthening a marriage. Here are a few reasons why:

It's easy and I promise you, this will help strengthen your relationship.

If I've learned anything in life, it's that anyone can do anything for 4 minutes at a time. And you never know, it might lead to something else if you know what I mean. ;-)

"Divorce." It's a tough word to hear, but country stars are just like us. Even our favorite artists have been married, and divorced once, twice and sometimes three times. And we still love them!

It's true what they say, that the best music comes from a heart break. Let's take a look at some of country music's favorite breakup songs. Zac Brown Band's "Highway 20 Ride." And then there's Tammy Wynette's "D-I-V-O-R-C-E." And who can look past Carly Pearce's entire 29 album, and Kelsea Ballerini's Rolling Up The Welcome Mat EP. Both of these records are written with one feeling in mind: heartbreak.

Here's a look at all of the country stars who have been divorced. Some of them might be surprising. Some of them you might scratch your head and think, "They were married before?" But thankfully, many of our favorite artists have found happiness with other people!

Shania Twain was married to her music producer and co-writer, Robert "Mutt" Lange. They Divorced after 14 years when Shania learned that Mutt was cheating on her with her best friend.

Kelsea Ballerini and Morgan Evans were together for 5 years before calling it quits. She alleges in song and interview that she was the one who put all of the effort into the marriage. She filed for divorce in 2021.

Morgan Evans was married to Kelsea Ballerini for 5 years. He claims that he was blindsided by the divorce.

Kenny Chesney was married to actress Renee Zellweger. They met at a music concert and by September, they were in January of 2005. They got married that May, and by September, they were already heading to divorce court.

Sara Evans was married to Craig Schelske from 1993-2007. In 2008 she married Harry "Jay" Barker and got divorced from him in 2021.

Miranda Lambert was married to Blake Shelton from 2011-2015. She is now married to Brendan McLoughlin.

Reba McEntire and Narvel Blackstock were married for 26 years. He filed for divorce in 2015.

The couple announced their split in July of 2020, just after three and a half years of marriage.

Blake Shelton married Kaynette Gern in 2003 and divorced three years later in 2006. He married Miranda Lambert in 2011 and they got divorced in 2015. Blake is now married to Gwen Stefani. They married each other in 2021.

LeAnn Rimes married Dean Sheremet in 2002 and got divorced in 2010. She then married actor, Eddie Cibrian in 2011. They've been together ever since.

Vince Gill married Janice Oliver in 1980. They divorced in 1997. He married Christian-pop singer, Amy Grant in 2000 and they've been together ever since.

Garth Brooks married Sandy Mahl in 1986 and got divorced in 2001. He then married fellow country singer, Trisha Yearwood in 2005 and has been married to her ever since then.

Yearwood was married to Christopher Latham from 1987 to 1991. She then married Robert Reynolds in 1994 and got divorced in 1999. And finally she met Garth Brooks and married him in 2005.

Zac Brown married Shelly. They were married for 12 years. They got married in 2006 and announced their divorce in 2018.

Randy Houser and his ex-wife, Jessa Lee Yantz, split after just 3 years of being married. He even filed a restraining order against her. They got married in 2011 and divorced in 2014.

Trace Adkins was accused of cheating on his ex-wife, Rhonda. They were married for 17 years and divorced in 2015.

Rodney married Tammy Jo McDonald in 1998 and they got divorced in 2012. He then married Rose Falcon in 2013 and they've been together ever since.

Faith Hill was married to Daniel Hill from 1998 to 1994. That's where Faith gets her last name from. She's been married to Tim McGraw since 1996.

Gary Allen and Tracy Taylor got married in 1987. They were married for 11 years. Then he married model, Danette Day in 1998, and they divorced in June 1999. His third wife, Angela (whom he wed on June 5, 2001), died by suicide on October 25, 2004.

Wynonna Judd’s first married businessman Arch Kelly III in 1996. They had two children together. The couple divorced in 1998. Then she married Daniel Roach in 2003 and divorced in 2007 after Daniel was convicted of attempted aggravated sexual battery against a minor. She Married Scott "Cactus" Moser in 2012 and they are still together.

Travis and Elizabeth Hatcher divorced on October 29, 2010, after a 19-year marriage.

Kelly Clarkson filed for divorce from music manager, Brandon Blackstock in June of 2020, after 7 years married.

Jana Kramer was married to Michael Gambino from 2004 and divorced the same year. They She married Johnathon Schaech and was married in 2010 and divorced in 2011. She was then married to Mike Caussin from 2015 and divorced in 2021.

Michael Ray was married to Carly Pearce for 8 months.