What would you do if your ex-wife brought her new husband to your mother’s funeral? Tayte’s ex-wife was super close with his mother when they were married. But when she cheated on him, his mother never spoke to her again. Sadly, Tayte’s mother just died. His ex-wife, who is now married to the man she cheated with, brought him to the funeral. Tayte has been trying to be cordial with is ex for the sake of their children, but this slap in the face is too much for him. How should Tayte handle what his ex-wife did at his mother’s funeral?
Ayla Brown: Good morning. Tayte. First of all, condolences to you. I hear your mother just passed.
Tayte: Yeah. She’s the first parent of mine to pass. Sorry, I know they say it’s not easy, but there’s no putting that into words. You know what I mean? It’s been devastating.
Ayla Brown: No, I know the reason why you’re calling in is because you did send us a message just about something that happened at the funeral with your ex. So really quickly, tell us about it and then we’ll put it out to the phones.
Tayte: Yeah. So my ex-wife, we were married for several years. We have a couple of kids and she and my mom were very close when we were married to the point that my mom called her her daughter. However my ex-wife cheated on me. And she ended up marrying the guy she cheated on me with.
Ayla Brown: Oh, my gosh
Tayte: The only person who took it harder than I did was my mom.
Ayla Brown: Your mom? Yeah, I can imagine. Because she loves you and obviously loved her. And then for her to violate the marriage and cheat on you and then remarry the guy she cheated on you with, then. Yeah, I mean, I get that.
Tayte: Yeah. She took it as a huge stab in the back to her personal. She felt personally betrayed to the point that she never spoke to her again. That’s what it was like when we got a divorce. My mom completely cut her out to the point of if we were going to an event for the kids, like one of their school events or whatever, if she was going to be there with her new husband, my mom wouldn’t go. It was that level of hate.
Ayla Brown: I don’t know. Okay. All right. I’m definitely getting the picture. So what happened at your mother’s funeral?
Tayte: My ex came with the guy. And I was pretty livid because she was well aware of my mom’s feeling about it. You know, this wasn’t something that was unknown to her, how she felt. And my dad was also extremely upset about it. An already difficult time was made far worse. And I felt like this was a massive slap in the face. And I feel like, up to this point, I have been very, very nice, very cordial with our dealings. And I feel like I don’t need to be that way anymore.
Ayla Brown: Yeah, she crossed the line. This is it. And you’re wondering how you deal with this. How do you tell her that? I know we’re in it for the kids, but you are not allowed to step. Do we have to do a restraining order? Like, I’m not sure what we need to do, but maybe anyone who’s been through something like this can give you some advice.
