Funerals are always a very difficult time, but it’s even harder when you have to write a speech for the funeral.
Recently I attended a funeral for my husband’s grandfather, Frank Robert Bellamy Jr. He was a wonderful and quiet man who lived in Riverside, RI. He passed away at the age of 89, leaving behind his devoted wife of 68 years. The last time I saw “Gramp” in person was when we brought our son, Barrett, to visit. Barrett was only a few months old, but Gramp loved holding him for a moment and laughing at him in his recliner chair.
My father-in-law, Bob Bellamy is one of four children, and he was the sibling that was chosen to get up and make a speech at the funeral home. I was in attendance for the speech and I was so impressed by my father-in-law for so many reasons.
His funeral speech had it all. (Also known as a eulogy). It was informative. We learned small stories about the deceased. The speech had one moment out outburst laugher from everyone in attendance. There was also one part in the speech that made Bob, and everyone else in the seats, cry.
I left that funeral being really blown away by my father-in-law. His poise and comfort were impressive and I was touched by his sadness as well. I turned to my husband when he left the podium and said, “That was one of the best speeches I’ve ever heard.”
Why Was This Funeral Speech Special?
So what makes a great speech a great speech? I sat there for a while and thought about that. Why did my father-in-law deliver such an incredible eulogy? I think there are many reasons. But I believe it may be helpful to others to write down why I thought it was so moving.
I hope none of us are put in a situation where we have to deliver a eulogy. They’re hard, and emotional. But if you are someday, here are some helpful hints to help get you through your funeral speech.