Madeleine’s boyfriend proposed to her and she initially said yes. But the next day she changed her mind and told him she didn’t want to get married. He understood so they called off the engagement and they broke up. But when he asked for the ring back, she said no.
She feels like the ring was a gift and she should get to keep it like any other gift. She also points out that he makes a lot of money, and she needs it way more than he does. Should a woman be allowed to keep an engagement ring if she called off the engagement?
Here’s Madeleine’s E-mail:
Hey guys I love the show and thought I would write in for Panic Button but I don’t want to get yelled at by Jonathan. So here’s my problem. I’m 26 years old and dating a great guy who is 28. He makes good money, is handsome and treats me like a princess. The problem is he wants me to be his queen. He hinted at marriage for months and then on Valentines Day he took me out to dinner and dropped the bomb. He got down on one knee, he opened up the most gorgeous ring I’ve ever seen in my life, and then he asked me to marry him.
Of course I said yes, because I was overcome with the moment, what woman wouldn’t be. But as soon as I was alone with my thoughts later I realized, I don’t want to get married. Not that he’s not great, but I don’t want to get married to ANYONE right now you know? I’m 26.
So I called him the next day and called it off. He was hurt but understood. He also said he didn’t think he could be around me anymore, which I understood. Then he asked for the ring back.
I couldn’t believe my ears. I told him I had lost it as a delay tactic. I’m not giving him his ring back! First of all he makes great money he doesn’t need it. Second of all it’s my ring now. If he gave me a car would I have to give that back? 3rd HE BROKE UP WITH ME! All I did was break off the engagement.
I know Jonathan is probably already yelling at me. I get it. I seem selfish. But the fact is that I need the ring more than him. He’s still texting me about it and I just said it’s gone forever and he needs to let it go.
-Madeleine
