Lainey thought she was cool with her ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend until she broke up with him. She told him she thinks he’s too close with Lainey and he might still be in love with her. Lainey doesn’t want to get back together with him and is worried that letting him lean on her during the breakup is sending the wrong message. Is it worth keeping her distance to let him get over the relationship, or should she continue to try to be there for her ex-boyfriend?
Ayla Brown: And good morning, Lainey. I hear there is a little drama between you and your ex-boyfriend. What is it and what’s going on?
Lainey: Yeah, I guess it’s kind of drama. My ex and I are really good friends. I have been friends with all of my exes And we broke up three years ago.
Ayla Brown: Okay. And how long were you dating when you were together?
Lainey: We dated for five years.
Ayla Brown: Wow. That’s a long time. So you’re friends with your ex that you were together with for five years. Gotcha. Good for you. I would not be able to do that.
Lainey: Yeah, and I don’t know. I’ve just always been totally fine after breakups. I know there’s always a reason. I think he’s a great guy, and so we would hang out. But also, I was trying to be really respectful of his current girlfriend, who I like a lot. Like, I thought she was perfect for him. And they’ve been dating, I think about a year and a half or so. And he told me the other day that they broke up because she was worried that I was too close to him, that he was maybe still not over me.
Ayla Brown: Oh, interesting. I mean, I can kind of see why she would think that if you and him are still really close and she’s trying to start a new relationship with him. But he still is friends with you, It kind of makes the water a little muddy. But what’s your question exactly? Because I feel like there’s so many things going through my mind right now. I’m curious where you’re at.
Lainey: I’m just kind of bummed because, like I said, I thought she was perfect for him. And I still like him as a person and he’s been spending more time with me, just obviously as friends because we’ve known each other for so long. But I eel really bad because I feel responsible or at least partly responsible for this breakup. And I thought that we were all cool. I thought she was cool, you know?
Ayla Brown: With you being n his life. But the answer is probably not, because she broke up with him. So Lanie is wondering, should she back away fully and not be friends with her ex at all just to give him space.
Lainey: I don’t know. Should I call her?
Ayla Brown: Oh, you want to call her? Okay. And just say, Listen, I’m not interested in your man at all. Is that a good play or an interesting one as well? So I don’t know. What should Lainey do? Thank you and good luck.
Lainey: Thanks.
