Beth’s daughter walked off stage and gave a hug to her friend’s mom at graduation before she hugged her own mom. Beth Is annoyed because the friend’s mom used to be married to her husband and she is sick of having this woman in her life and social circle. She feels snubbed by her daughter so she skipped her own daughter’s graduation party. Would you skip your own child’s party over a hug at graduation?
Ayla Brown: And good morning, Beth, and congratulations to your daughter who just graduated high school.
Beth: Thank you so much. I appreciate it
Ayla Brown: But I heard something happened at graduation that you’re calling in about. What is it?
Beth: Yeah. I am calling in because my daughter basically didn’t hug me first, which in normal circumstances would be fine. But the person that she hugged was my husband’s ex-wife.
Ayla Brown: What do you mean, hugged? Like when she got off stage?
Beth: Yes, when she got off stage..
Ayla Brown: She had her diploma in her hand? Oh, my gosh, Yay! And she’s done. And she’s going toward the parents and you’re there and she didn’t hug you. She hugged your husband’s ex-wife first.
Beth: Correct. Yeah.
Ayla Brown: Interesting. Why?
Beth: My husband married this woman young, and obviously they’re not together anymore, but she lives in my neighborhood. She has children of her own, some the same age as my daughter. And so they’re friends, and there’s another extra relationship there. And when I asked my daughter about it, she said that it was just because, you know, it’s Jenny’s mom and she just happened to be sitting closer. And so I hugged her.
Ayla Brown: No big deal then, right?
Beth: I mean, to me, I don’t like that this woman is around. I don’t like that she’ part of my social circle. I don’t like that I have to be around his ex-wife. It’s just not something I want to do. I don’t want to deal with that.
Ayla Brown: But especially on a special day like your daughter’s graduation. So let me just recap. Your daughter got right off stage and hugged Jenny’s mom, which is your husband’s ex-wife. Did she eventually hug you?
Beth: I mean, she did hug me. It’s just at that point, you know…..
Ayla Brown: You were just kind of rubbed the wrong way by the by the moment.
Beth: Yes. I also told my husband about it, and he didn’t really seem to take my side either. I feel like nobody’s really listening to me
Ayla Brown: He’s in an awkward position. I mean, his ex-wife and his current wife who’s side does he take.
Beth: And so I ended up not attending my daughter’s graduation party. I didn’t want to deal with it. I didn’t want to have to run into her. I just wanted to avoid the whole thing altogether.
Ayla Brown: When you say run into her, do you mean your daughter or the ex-wife?
Beth: Oh, the ex-wife. Not my daughter, of course.
Ayla Brown: Oh, wow. Your daughter must have been so hurt that you didn’t show up.
Beth: Yes, I mean, she was upset, but I’m also upset, and I just didn’t want to run into this woman. And I just feel like I’m the one that’s not being heard here.
