Paul’s wife, a self proclaimed “Happy Homemaker”, always wanted to be a housewife and when they got married they agreed that she would stay home and take care of the house. But she makes really great pies which she has started selling at a local diner. Now she wants to take some classes and potentially start selling pies full time. But Paul wants his housewife back and is unhappy that she is changing their plan.
Ayla Brown: We’re doing group therapy and today it has to do with women and working and how dare women go to work? I’m just kidding. Good morning, Paul. What is going on in your life? I don’t want to make fun of you or anything. I hear your story.
Paul: Good morning. When I met my wife, you know, before we were married, her whole thing was that she just always wanted to be a housewife. You know, she was actually part of this Facebook group that called themselves the Happy Homemakers. Their whole thing was just, you know, a little bit more of a traditional approach to men working and women staying at home, taking care of the house, cooking, taking care of the family. I’m great with women working and everything like that, But, you know, that kind of does align with my values.
Ayla Brown: Yeah. Because here you would be working and she would be the one to kind of keep the household running in a way. You know, I don’t throw any shade to anyone who has that arrangement and wants that because I know people in my life. My ex actually, his parents had that arrangement. It worked really, really well for them.
Paul: Yeah, absolutely. And we both decided that’s we wanted and that’s how we did it, it’s been going great. However, she’s an amazing baker, an amazing cook, you know, just makes some dynamite stuff. She makes these pies that are incredible and she’s just started selling them at this local diner and started selling them at some fairs and stuff. Wow. And people are really starting to take notice of them. And that’s kind of got her excited. She’s kind of excited having her own little business now. And actually she’s been talking about going back to school, you know, taking business classes, stuff like that. And like I said, I’m completely fine with women working, but not my wife. Just because like I said, we had an arrangement. And it seemed like a very important part of her life as well. Coming into the marriage. So that’s really the issue right now.
Ayla Brown: I feel like when people listen to you right now, they’re going to be rubbed the wrong way because we are we are in 2023 and women work and so do men. And it’s going to ruffle some feathers. And I think that that’s not a bad thing. But I guess at the end of the day, you’re more concerned because this is an arrangement that you guys had prior to marriage and now your wife is breaking that arrangement and you’re wondering if that’s okay.
Paul: Exactly. And I mean, it’s going to change everything. The dynamic of the relationship, where the money’s coming from, what her schedule is like. You know, she’ll be much busier if she’s running a pie business, you know?
