Country Mornings with Jonathan & Ayla

Country Mornings with Jonathan & Ayla

Country Mornings with Jonathan & Ayla

A little girl who has no hair due to alopecia, playing with a friend in a home.

My Daughter With Alopecia Was Being Bullied By Her Sister, So I’m Shaving Her Sister’s Head As A Punishment

Marissa has a daughter with Alopecia. She got a new wig that she was excited about and told her friends it was real hair. Her sister got jealous of the attention she was getting and pulled her wig off and ruined it. Marissa is furious that her daughter was bullying her sister and also that she ruined an expensive wig that she can’t afford to replace. So she decided to punish her daughter by shaving her head. Is that a fair punishment? Should her daughter be more sensitive to her sister’s Alopecia? Or is it normal for a teenage girl to be jealous of her sister getting attention?

Here’s Marissa’s Call About Her Daughter With Alopecia And Her Other Daughter The Bully

Jonathan: Today for panic button we have Marissa. Hey, Marissa.

Marissa: Hey.

Jonathan: You have a bit of a hairy problem going on. I’m sorry. Did I get it? You have an issue going on with your ten and twelve year old daughters. What’s happening?

Marissa: Yeah. So my ten year old daughter has alopecia. And if you don’t know what that is, alopecia means that her hair either doesn’t grow or grows in really, really patchy.

Jonathan: Yeah, yeah.

Marissa: So, it’s just kind of it’s been an ongoing issue of us trying to figure that out. And recently I bought her a really nice wig. It’s really expensive. Really nice.

Jonathan: Yeah. Because there’s cheap wigs. And they’re not great.

Marissa: Yeah. But, you know, an expensive wig.

Ayla: Surprisingly expensive.

Jonathan: Everybody’s seen a cheap wig.

Ayla: I remember a friend of mine whose daughter had alopecia and all of a sudden she went to school with a wig. And it really made it look, obviously like she had hair again. But the confidence, like, you could see that she was happy again. She was like, I have hair.

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are advocates for alopecia awareness
Amy Sussman/Getty Images for Critics Choice Association
After making recent headlines of slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars in retaliation to a joke made about Jada’s alopecia condition, the couple’s relationship was heavily criticized online for Jada’s cheating scandal.

Marissa:  Yeah

Ayla: So, I’m assuming that’s what happened with your daughter.

Marissa: Yeah. It was a game changer for us, which is really nice. And, long story short, I guess my ten year old told her classmates that she was on a new medication. And this was really her hair. She just got excited, and you know how kids are.

Jonathan: Yeah. I mean, why not?

Marissa: Okay, so she’s got this wig on. She’s looking cute. She’s feeling really good. And my 12 year old has always kind of had a thing about this because my little daughter gets a lot of attention when she walks into a place and is bald.

Ayla: Yeah.

Marissa: And my 12 year old snatches the wig off her head and ripped it up. Destroyed a very expensive wig. In front of the whole school.

Ayla:  Right. Oh my God.

Marissa: And my daughter just has a meltdown at school. I have to go in and mediate. There’s crying. It’s a whole mess. I’m absolutely furious with her. And I just don’t know, because, again, it’s an ongoing problem.

Jonathan: Right

Marissa:  I don’t know what the most appropriate punishment is. And frankly, I’m at my wit’s end. So I’ve decided that I’d like to shave my twelve year old’s head. And I just need some backup if this is a good idea or if I’m acting as insane as they are.

Ayla: Wait, so you want to teach her a lesson? An eye for an eye thing or a hair for a hair.

Jonathan: Let her see what it’s like to be bald.

Marissa: Yeah, exactly.

Jonathan: Let her see what your other daughter has to go through all the time. And how it’s not about getting attention. It’s about struggling with an issue.

Ayla: I mean, I don’t know is that a good idea.

Jonathan: I don’t know, man. The part of my brain that grew up in the 80s and 90s is like shave her. And use Nair so it doesn’t grow back anytime soon.

Ayla: But, as a parent in 2024, isn’t this a softer, gentler world, right?

Jonathan: I mean.

Ayla: Is there a happy medium? Maybe not super gentle, but maybe not like shaving off her hair.

Jonathan: I don’t think.

Marissa: If you’ve got a suggestion. I want to hear it.

Jonathan: Yeah, I don’t, because it would be really hard for me not to shave her head. It would be really hard. mean, I’m getting mad just listening to Marissa tell us this story..

Ayla: Yeah. Because the twelve year old should be a big sister.  

Jonathan: Much less if it was my own daughter.

Ayla: Yeah.

Jonathan: You’re supposed to be the one looking out for me when other people make fun of her. Not the one making her feel bad.

Marissa: Yeah.

Jonathan: Okay. All right.

Ayla: Sorry, Marissa.

  • What Do You Guys Think?

    Each morning Jonathan and Ayla talks to someone about a problem that they need advice on. Then we take calls from all of you
    Check out the advice and stories we heard this morning here:

  • Vote Now On What Marissa Should Do

    Click here to vote in our twitter poll
    Then check back in and see what everyone thinks they should do
    And be sure to follow us on twitter

  • The Panic Button

    We Do The Panic Button every day beginning at 7:10 AM
    Tune in and listen every day:

Sign me up for the Country 102.5 email newsletter!

Become a VIP member today and get access to exclusive contests, country music news, and be the first to know when your favorite artists release new music and are coming to town!

By clicking "Subscribe" I agree to the website's terms of Service and Privacy Policy. I understand I can unsubscribe at any time.