Nikki’s husband took her out on a date and on the way home he stopped in Hampton Beach to meet his brother at a bachelor party. He told her he was only stopping in for 20 minutes and she could either wait in the car or wander on the beach while he was inside. Nikki was angry because she didn’t feel safe walking alone on Hampton Beach at night but her husband says she is being high maintenance and doesn’t understand why its a big deal.
Is it normal for a woman to feel unsafe walking alone at night at Hampton Beach? Or is Nikki being high maintenance and making a big deal out of nothing?
Ayla Brown’s Call With Nikki
Ayla Brown: And good morning, Nikki. We are just changing lives here one person at a time, so hopefully we can help you out. What happened at Hampton Beach?
Nikki: What happened? My husband and I had a date night. We’re heading home, and Hampton Beach is kind of the midway point, and he suggests making a pit stop. Okay. Now, we just had a date. So it’s 10:00 at night, and he said he wants to meet his brother for a drink.
Ayla Brown: At Hampton Beach?
Nikki: Here’s the thing. He said that I could walk around because I wasn’t allowed to be with him and his brother.
Ayla Brown: Why weren’t you allowed to go get a drink with your husband and his brother?
Nikki: Apparently, his brother was at a bachelor party. So no girls allowed. Well, at least the kind that wear clothes.
Ayla Brown: Well I don’t even know what to say about that. What did he want you to do? Just walk around by yourself while he went into another person’s bachelor party to have a drink with his brother and his friends?
Nikki: Yeah, at 10:00 at night at Hampton Friggin Beach.
Ayla Brown: That’s beautiful. Okay, so what did you say about that?
Nikki’s Three Problems
Nikki: So the way I see it, there are three different problems here. The most obvious one. He wants me to walk around Hampton Beach by myself. Okay. Not safe.
Ayla Brown: Not safe. Yeah. Number one. Huge problem. Number two, what is it?
Nikki: Number two did not tell me about this beforehand.
Ayla Brown: Like if he had warned you, you just had this great date night. And if he had been like, hey, after the date, how do you feel about this? Then you would have been able to be prepared mentally, emotionally, maybe called someone to meet you out at Hampton Beach like another girlfriend or something. Right. Okay. So that’s number two. What’s the third problem?
Nikki: Number three, clearly, Hampton Beach is not a good place for a bachelor party. So his brother is not a good friend..
Ayla Brown: Well, it’s actually a fun place for a bachelor party. I’m sure they had a great time. But did he ever go into the bachelor party or did you win in this fight?
Nikki: I told him no, that I was not about to go gallivanting on some boardwalk.
Ayla Brown: I mean, to me, that makes so much sense. But was he mad about that decision, or did he respect you enough to be like…. You kind of make a good point.
Nikki: He thought I was being high maintenance.
Ayla Brown: By not stopping at 10:00 at night to allow him to go into a bachelor party without you and let you just walk around Hampton Beach or maybe stay in the car by yourself.
Nikki: Right.
Ayla Brown: Wow. Okay. So your question to me is, were you acting high maintenance or did you have a point? That’s the question, correct?
Nikki: Yes. I want to know if I’m acting high maintenance in it.
