My Cheapskate Fiance Wants To Charge People To Come To Our Wedding
My crazy fiance wants our guests to pay for our wedding.
Wedding Panic
Earlier today on Panic Button, we had a caller named Ben. Ben shared his rather unique problem paying for a wedding:
“My fiancée has this idea that we should charge our wedding guests $70 each to cover the expenses of attending our wedding. She believes it’s a practical way to offset the costs. Considering the expenses involved with vendors, food, and entertainment. Frankly, I’ve never come across such a concept, and I must admit, I’m finding it a bit hard to swallow.
The real challenge here is that my family tends to be quite frugal, and I’m genuinely concerned that they might not react positively to this idea. On the flip side, her family is financially well-off, so they might not see the additional cost as a big deal. Nevertheless, the notion of asking our guests to pay for the privilege of attending our wedding strikes me as somewhat absurd.
To put things in perspective, some friends have drawn parallels to destination weddings, where guests are typically expected to cover their own expenses. However, our wedding will take place in New Hampshire. Not in some exotic locale.
I do acknowledge that weddings can be expensive, having been married before. But I’m grappling with the dilemma of wanting to make it more affordable for our guests while recognizing the financial realities of hosting a wedding.
So, I’d like to hear your thoughts and receive your advice on this matter. How would you react if asked to pay to attend a wedding? Do you believe it’s a reasonable approach to managing wedding expenses? Do you think it’s potentially placing too much burden on our guests? Should we explore alternative solutions to create a more budget-friendly wedding experience?”
I wouldn’t even go if it were free
Now, here’s the question for you all: What are your personal opinions on this matter? Personally, I’d be inclined to appreciate an invitation that required a payment to attend. Thanks for giving me the perfect excuse to decline. To be honest, there are many weddings I wouldn’t attend even if they were free, let alone if there was a cost involved. Regardless paying for a wedding is never easy.
My Fiance Dropped A Prenup On Me At The Last Second Before Our Wedding
Monica’s fiancé handed her a manila envelope right before they were about to get married and it had a prenup inside it. He thinks it’s completely reasonable to protect his assets, but Monica thinks its an awful way to start their life together. Does a prenup mean he doesn’t trust her? Should she still go through with the wedding? Would you sign a prenup?
Ayla Brown: Hey, Monica. Good morning. And congratulations on the engagement. I hear you have something that you want to chat with me about. What is it?
Monica: Yes. And thank you so much. I’m in love with my fiancé. So we just got engaged three and a half months ago, and we’ve been together for four years. So finally he popped the question.
Ayla Brown: After all the waiting and wondering, I get it. All right. So congrats. That’s awesome. About time. Marc or whatever his name is. What is his name, by the way?
Monica: Parker.
Ayla Brown: Oh, Parker. Okay. Congrats. Parker.
Monica: Yeah. There’s a little bit of something, though, that’s making me question a few things.
Ayla Brown: Okay, So let me know. What is it?
Monica: The other day he had this manila envelope, and he’s just said…. Hey, babe, I’ve got something I want to talk to you about, and I’m curious to see what the manila envelope is all about. And so he’s like, Hey, we should have a prenup because everyone in 2023 are doing it.
Ayla Brown: He put a prenup in front of you. And he said, Hey, it’s 2023. A lot of people are doing prenups. And I’ve drafted one up. Here you go.
Monica: Well he was respectful about it. He has like his own house, which I’ve been living in for a while, you know? So he has some pretty nice assets.
Ayla Brown: That he wants to protect.
Monica: That he wants to protect, which I get. But it makes me really wonder if he really loves me.
Ayla Brown: Of course. Right.
Monica: But also, it’s just like a thing right?
Ayla Brown: Yeah. Because you’re like, I’m in this for love. And he just got a prenup. That means he’s doubting me or doubting this relationship somehow. Isn’t that what a prenup means? If we get divorced, you get your assets, and I go away with mine. So that’s a really good question Thank you, Monica. Good luck and congrats anyway.
Monica: Thank you.
Jonathan Wier was born and raised in the Midwest and has loved radio since he was a little kid with crippling insomnia. He now happily finds himself in Boston doing mornings from 6-10am on Country 102.5. Jonathan likes to write personal stories about his family and travel.
